Tuesday, September 22, 2009

It All Started With Two Pink Lines and a Computer

Four years ago, I found out I was pregnant with Reagan. Daunted at the news and some ensuing complications, I did what many modern women do-- I took to the internet. I thought I was just looking for the answers to "morning sickness cures." While I never did find the answers to curing morning sickness, I found something much greater--friends.

It started when I stumbled across a "mommy board" where all of the women were expecting babies at the same time as me. Many were experiencing the same problems as me. Many had the same questions as me. I can't pinpoint the moment where this mommy board turned. Turned from being a resource of anonymous women providing answers, to being a conglomeration of wonderful friends providing support and comfort. But it did happen. And over the course of four years the desire to go from being friends through a network of fibre cables to being friends in the flesh became quite great. So much so, that some of us finally decided to meet.

Over the weekend, six of us from across the country converged in New York City to meet in person for the first time. I wasn't the least bit nervous. Through the boards and then through blogs, I felt as though I had gotten to know these women quite well. They were at a distinct disadvantage with me, however. I hadn't blogged all year so they didn't really know what had been going on with me and over time I'm sure the memory of me had faded a bit. After all, I was still only pixels and memories to them at this point. Nonetheless, they still wanted to meet me and I them.

In short, it was a fabulous weekend. The trip was everything I had hoped it would be and more. The women were everything I had come to know them to be and more.

I don't want to take away from the great posts that my new "real life" friends have already written, so let me point you their way so you can check out their take on the trips in first person view. It's interesting to me that all of them wrote very different posts about the same weekend. They all wrote their posts with focuses from their own strengths and their personality. Had I not have met them in person and been part of the weekend, why they each wrote with a different slant would have been totally lost on me. I love that I've now been able to delve into that aspect of them and see even more into their posts.
  • Joanna wrote a fabulous post about the trip and the good, human side of the internet and summed it up beautifully as "Jelly Bellies for the soul." It was a fitting post coming from a woman who is even smarter and wittier than her posts allow her to be, and that is saying much.
  • Lindsay wrote a great post about where we went, what we did, and how we ate, shopped, and twittered ourselves across the city. Lindsay is a planner and an organizer. She sent out spreadsheets and Word documents about our trip plans and emergency contacts. Can I just say just how much I love that?
  • Laura is the photographer I hope to be one day. She took some great pictures and applied some skillful editing to make us all look good. Her post is loaded with some of those great photos.
  • London wrote of our "shenanigans" and conversations. London has a flair for writing and words and it was only fitting that she would focus on that aspect.
  • Rita wrote--well I'm sure Rita has written her post in her head a dozen times (As she says she often does, and I admit to doing too. I intend to rectify this I swear!). Since Rita hasn't published her post, I'll speculate on what Rita has swimming in her head. I'm guessing Rita would write a post focusing more on people's character and personality. Rita herself is a person booming with character and personality, as are the other women. But in Rita's case, it seems to come easiest for her to know exactly who she is and to be precisely that.
I think the descriptions of each person in the above posts were quite accurate so I won't repeat those. Allow me to sum up how I feel about all of these women by saying that although we have different political, ideological, and whatever views, we still have much in common. They are all women I greatly respect and admire. They are all smart, friendly, compassionate, funny women. I laughed this weekend and let go like I hadn't in ages. It was like meeting old friends from school and just picking up where we left off years ago. They are all women I would choose to have in my circle of friends if they lived close to me. But since they don't, I'll have to continue to know them through Facebook, Twitter, and their blogs. Then, when we meet again next year, we'll just once again pick up where we left off.

It was such a wonderful experience that I hope to meet more of my online friends in the future. It's truly amazing to me that this whole weekend started its making four years ago as nothing more than a search for answers after seeing two little pink lines on a pregnancy test. And know I have the pleasure of calling five amazing women...friends.

18 comments:

JenFen said...

Great post to make your blogging comeback. I'll be meeting you in Vegas next year hopefully and thanks for the reminder that it was 4 years ago around this time that I found out I was pregnant with Jadyn.

adaZm said...

Awww... Bridget, it's so good to have you back in blog form. Excellent post and makes me wish we were still shacking up together in NY. Can't wait until next year. And yes, I've written and rewritten my blog in my head a dozen times. If only I had some sort of recording device up in there.

Rita said...

Sigh. That's what I get for letting the man use my computer. I get to leave comments as adaZm. Thankfully, you knew it was me, right? :)

-Bridget said...

Lol, of course I knew it was you Rita. "There's only one adaZm" right?

Jane said...

I like your post a lot. And you all look good in your photo. Good luck on all your endeavors and God bless! By the way, these free gift cards might interest you too. Have a blessed day!

Joanna said...

It's funny, I've seen that picture of us a number of times since Saturday, but this is the first time I realized that we had so many different flags behind us. Very appropriate.

I'm so glad you commented about Rita writing her post in her head. it made me giggle first thing in the morning.

London said...

Great post. And you flatter me, I felt like my post was so lame, lol. I'm glad you're blogging again!

Kara said...

Great to see you blogging again. Oh, and I have just loved reading everyones' posts and and stories from the NYC trip.

Mel said...

Glad to see you blogging again. And I have enjoyed reading all of your unique perspectives of the trip. Sounds like a great time for all. I think it is neat that internet buddies can meet up and not feel like total strangers, because they are not!

LauraC said...

Welcome back! And exactly the post I thought you would write!

And no, we did not forget you. None of us ever stopped thinking about you.

Steph said...

Welcome back to blogging! And, sounds like such a fabulous trip!

Kelly Deneen said...

What an incredible experience!! I know I went through a similar experience on a mommy/baby board. I love how the internet can bring people together. :)

Welcome back, BTW!

Beth said...

I hope this means you're really back! Please start posting again. And how about some pictures of those gorgeous girls???? And an update on your life, while you're at it. (Guess I should have gone to NYC, huh? LOL!)

*Kc* said...

Yay you're back!! I've so missed your blog.

Deanna said...

I've read a few of the other's summaries from the trip and I'm so glad to see that you posted yours. I have thought and wondered about you so often!

Carrie77 said...

You probably don't remember me from the May06 board, but I remember you and getting advice from you on decorating my sons room! heheh Welcome back!!

Amanda said...

I loved reading everyone's blog post of this weekend. Neat how they are so different yet so alike! How exciting it must have been to meet everyone!

Julie said...

Funny, I came to Babycenter too to find commiseration for morning sickness :)

Great to have you back!